What does God say about sex?

What was God’ intention for sex? Is it that we have sex whenever and with whomever? Is it something we enjoy with no parameters or constraints as many presume? Is sex a big deal, or a means to an end in a meaningful marriage context? Should it be taken lightly? Should only the married have sex? Can the ‘nearly married’ have sex? Or not so married? Should those with no desire to get married be having sex?

Well they could. But should they?

Is waiting to have sex old now?

Genesis 2:24 says That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. One flesh! Intimacy to the point where we become one! Who can do this? A man and his wife!

It took me a while to know this truth, but I do now. Sex should be between a husband and wife. It is an act. It is an act two people share, do to/with each other from the love they have for each other. It is called intimacy for that reason. It is supposed to be intimate; shared with someone who has your heart; not only that, someone who is yours and yours alone. It connotes a physical joining, that nothing on earth can equal. And that person will only be that when you have promised to love them unconditionally till death do you part. You love them enough to go down the aisle. You are convinced that there is no other one for you. It is then and truly then that sex is not a means to an end; it is not a tool to fulfill the requirement of the flesh. It is more. It is greater. It is worthy. It is a treasure; not a throw away garment after one wear! I prefer the word ‘intimacy’ rather than just ‘sex’. Intimacy is more than just two people having an exercise session with no passion, but lust. The afterward of having sex is not rue, shame, disgust with oneself and disgust with the other. In fact the afterward should bring smiles and a joy for what you have with your partner. Unfortunately, at times for some, the afterward of sex is just that, shame. Why? Because what came before had no foundation in love.

Of course our present culture has defaced sex and lent it to anything but love; anything but holy; anything but righteous; anything but being faithful; anything but true feelings.

I know. I was there once. But we do not have to continue on this path.

I encourage you if not married, to wait till you are married before having sex with your man. Easily said than done, heh? But for your sake I implore you. This way you give yourself the chance to have what true loving intimacy really means. And for those who are not married, with no prospect, but just want/crave for the act – you are missing out. You are robbing yourself. You are hurting yourself. What you are getting is a drought of what you can have. And that drought could unfortunately both rob you and marr you of the best to come. It could be a source of a wound, a pain, a foundation that will bear worm-ridden fruits.

We are in that season of love. Girl craving her man; boy craving his girl. Great season. I wonder if we can do it the right way? I encourage you to pay attention to the order that would bear good fruit for you; and bear good fruit in your Christian walk. See him; fall in love; desire to spend your days with him; and then after the ‘I do”, have sex. By then it won’t even be sex. It would just be intimacy! Pure true intimacy!

Linda Faith

Linda faith is the Editor in Chief of Jewels Magazine. She has authored eight books. She is a prolific writer and powerful speaker, inspiring many women to be all God has called them to be. She is the founder of Joy Women’s conference which reaches out to empower, inspire and motivate women in their faith walk. She was a software developer before she started writing.

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